Boldness, Passion and Genius

Along time ago, when I got married in 1994, my fiancee at the time and I invented a possibility for our marriage.

Boldness, Passion and Genius.

Unprecedented Adventure,

Living the Unimaginable.

It was great for a while.  And then it disappeared for about 24 years.

What I did today, reminded me of the first line……………I’ll tell you why……….

I have had an agreement with an associate to share my bonus with her.  We were “partners” in achieving it.  She helped me and me strategized and made sure it happened.

And it was great for the first two years.  But she has since moved down south.  She comes back to work now and then, but she no longer helps me, strategizes, or seems to care whether we hit our numbers.  I haven’t felt like she is my partner for about 8 months.

But I didn’t say anything.  I shared my bonus in the 3rd quarter, and didn’t even hit what I needed to in the 4th because I was counting on her help and she was more interested in her new home.  It am responsible for the failure, and for not speaking up.

But now, it’s a new year.  And today, when I tried to engage her in how we were going to hit our numbers for this quarter, she did not offer to help or to do anything much.  We discussed the weather and that it was going to be a nice beach day tomorrow.

After we hung up, I texted her that I wanted to have a conversation about the bonus.  There was no response as there often isn’t.

So I emailed her my proposal.  That I felt that the partnership was great for two years, but that the arrangement has changed.  I no longer felt it was appropriate to share the bonus.  I asked for her feedback and told her that if she feels that we are back in partnership, to please suggest we resume the agreement.

It was bold.  It was passionate.  It was genius.  And, up to now, I have been afraid to get people upset, to get in trouble, and to alienate people that I might need.  I have not spoken up on my behalf, somehow thinking I was inferior and didn’t deserve to be treated well.

But those days are gone.  I have discovered my value.

I am proud of myself.  I did it.  And, I did it before I earned the bonus so I don’t have to share this one.

If she wants to discuss it, great.

And if she doesn’t respond, then I have a record of what I proposed.

I’m a little nervous, but it has been bothering me for a while and I hated the fact that I was too chicken to bring it up.  And, I was afraid she would get mad.

AND SHE MIGHT!!!  AND THAT’S OK!!!!  LET HER ARGUE FOR IT!!!!!

So,  BOLDNESS, PASSION AND GENIUS.  Bring it on (ALONG WITH ALL THE BODY SENSATIONS I AM EXPERIENCING RIGHT NOW)!!!!!!!