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10 Comments – Getting in to Action

26 Apr

I have received ten comments on my blog.  It hit that a week after my goal.  My next milestone is five days from today.  I need 5-15 more comments.

My first response is…….oh well, guess I won’t hit it.  Who cares?

My second response is…….what are you, a resigned loser?  How can we make this happen?

My first responder says……why do you need to be a hero?  Enjoy your life.  Don’t bother people.  Just give up.

My second responder says……f—- you.  I will do it to spite you.  I can post it on my private facebook sites and ask my friends to check it out and comment.  I’m going to do it right now….

OK – I did it.  I put it a request  on one  facebook page. ( I almost gave up because the typing was minutes delayed, but I hung in there.)

I can put it on another one next.  Why not?

So, the lesson here is:  take the action anyway even if you don’t want to and you are arguing with yourself.  It’s like exercise.  You never feel worse if you do it, but you certainly torture yourself if you don’t.

Regret comes from inaction.  When I’m thinking about what I need to do and not doing it, I exhaust myself thinking about what I should be doing.  And, it makes no difference.

In sales, I’ve learned, that even if I don’t have success,but I’m in action, I can feel good about myself. Lying on my couch sleeping does not result in more appointments or sales.  I tried it yesterday.  Actually, it sort of did.  I took a little break from my calls and emails and took a nap.  When I woke up, I had a response from a client with a time to meet.

So I take that back.  Sometimes a nap is a good thing, but as a break, not as the main activity of the day.

OK – I have a call in 3 minutes.  Thanks for listening.  And, get into action and tell me about it.  How can I help you feel better about yourself and your goals?

 

 

 

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Decluttering my emails

19 Apr

In my seminar Monday night, we looked at areas where we were not organized.

My emails, and the stress associated with trying to get through them each day, came to mind immediately.   I get so many emails from companies trying to sell me, educate me, or sign me up for something that by the time I am through deleting them, I rarely have the mental fortitude left to deal with the real emails.

And, knowing that I might not be getting back to a client, completing a required form, or responding to my boss, weighs on my mind all day.  It robs me of my energy and aliveness.  Just thinking about it makes me tired.

So I created an action step:  unsubscribe to at least 10 companies before our next seminar session.

Before the seminar was even over, I took out my phone and looked at my emails.  The worry started immediately.  What if I need to know what’s on sale at Chico’s?  What if Ann Taylor has a really good dress being featured?  What if I’m missing a good coupon at Bob’s?  What if I ever decide to shop at Kohl’s?   What if I want the 20% off my next book at Barnes & Noble?

I felt like I was trying to declutter my house and couldn’t make myself throw anything away.  This wasn’t even things.  I thought about it.  If I really needed a coupon or something, I could google the regular site and find what I needed.  Even if I kept getting the emails, I’d probably never find the one I needed, remember it was there, or use it before it expired.

I went to the first email.  Chico’s.  I found the unsubscribe button and clicked.  Next was the Gap.  After the first couple it got easier.  Some of them wanted a reason.  Simple – I am trying to get less emails.

So far I have taken myself off of 14 different emails.  And guess what?  This morning I could barely notice the difference.

So I’m going to keep going.  The next few are a little harder.  Do I really need to know when the Chamber of Commerce events are?  I’m not even a member.  But it’s something I probably should go to……………Well, I’m obviously not cured, but I’m a little better then I was before.  Wish me luck.